"My husband did NOT want to go to couples therapy. I was already almost out of the door when he finally agreed to meet with Eva. She got through to him very quickly. She has a way of getting through to men and helping them see what's actually going on with humor, kindness and directness, which my husband really appreciated. And so we got to experience change within the first couple of sessions. Now, a few months in, we're more connected than we've been in many years. Our kids feel it, too.”
- L, USA
Couples come to me at very different stages. Some are in the early tension — the arguments that go nowhere, the silences that last too long. Some are further along — sleeping in separate rooms, wondering if it's already too late.
What I've seen, again and again, is that the distance between "I don't know if I want this anymore" and "we're actually okay" is smaller than most couples believe. Not because the problems weren't real. Because once two people understand what's actually driving the pattern — and get real tools to change it — things move faster than therapy ever suggested they would.
The house stops feeling like a courtroom. The kids feel it. The relationship starts to feel like it belongs to both of you again.
The fight you keep having isn't really about how your partner stacks the dishwasher. It's about something older and more frightened underneath. And until you address that, you'll keep having it.
Most of us arrive in relationships carrying adaptations we developed long before we met our partner. Strategies we learned in childhood to stay safe, get love, avoid pain. They got us this far. They're just not working anymore — and somewhere, you probably already know that.
RLT works with our behavioral patterns: why you go cold when your partner needs you most, why you explode when you meant to stay calm, and why being right feels more important in the moment than being close.
This isn't about blame. It's about seeing clearly and the skills to make true change.
This is coaching, not psychoanalysis. We're not going to spend years sitting in the pain. The work is deep — we do look at where your patterns come from, and that matters — but we move. Every session, you leave with something concrete: a skill, a practice, a different way of showing up.
I am fully trained in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by Terry Real — a methodology built specifically for couples that combines the depth of trauma work with practical relational skills. How to make a clear request instead of a complaint. How to hear difficult feedback without defending. How to repair after a rupture instead of sweeping it under the carpet. How to advocate for yourself without attacking your partner.
The goal isn't to keep you in coaching forever. It's to give you the tools to keep going on your own.
“My wife and I were already many years in therapy, but it felt mostly like sitting in the pain, not learning how to stop hurting each other. With Eva, it was something else. She helped us really see how much we damaged each other, but without giving us shame. She taught us to stop before it becomes too much, to react from a better place, and finally to speak about the things we put under the carpet for so long. For the first time, we didn’t only understand the problem. We could actually start changing it.”
- B, Germany
"My partner and I were almost breaking up when we found Eva. We loved each other but couldn’t stop fighting. And when we fought, we both said things that really hurt each other. With Eva, we learned how our past was actually the one hurting our relationship. Eva taught us how to speak from what we learned is our ‘Wise Adult.’ We still have work to do, but we finally feel closer to each other, and there’s more peace at home."
- M+S, Germany
“Our first session with Eva was already so eye-opening. She has a very rare combination of warmth and clarity. Eva listens deeply, asks the questions that matter, and helps you get to the root of things very quickly. Working with her has been grounding, clarifying, and transformative for our long relationship.”
- T+A, USA
Relational Life Therapy Coach (Relational Life Institute) · ICF-Certified (PCC level) ·
Trauma-Informed Certified Coach (ICF)
